If She's Not Responding...

This is another fun one that guys just ... don't seem to understand.

From what I understand, there are multiple interpretations as to why a girl won't call. The obvious one being that she's just not that into you....

I just want to give a "think-outside-of-the-box" suggestion to the boys, and girls, out there who wonder why she's not calling back.

1. She really is busy - Maybe she doesn't have time to call you. There are a lot of girls out there who have stressful, insane jobs. It's not that she isn't thinking about you, she just doesn't have time to think about calling you. Besides, you're the one who asked her out... YOU should call her.

2. She doesn't want to seem forward - By this I mean that she is most likely waiting for YOU to make the move. She doesn't want to seem desperate or clingy by calling you. Most girls love the chase.

3. You said YOU would call or you didn't call her - Girls take everything a guy says literally. If a guy says "yeah, yeah we should get together soon, let me know if you ever want to go to dinner or something," we take this as, oh, well I should call or text (or maybe even Facebook) HIM  to make the plans - or more often than not, oh, well if he didn't set a date or plans he's not interested. If you say "yeah, yeah we should get together soon. I'll give you a call so we can go to dinner sometime," you better get your ass to dialing.

4. She is seeing/dating someone else - Along with the last entry, girls don't want to break anybody's heart. We usually try and take the easy road, even though it's not the right road, and just stop responding. If she is dating someone else, she might want to see which of you is the right pick for her, so maybe that's why she's not calling, but most likely... 9/10 times it's because she lost interest.

5. Women have "playing-hard-to-get" engraved in their DNA - if you're not trying hard enough to get her pinned down for a time to hang out, she thinks you're not interested. MAKE the effort. Make sure she knows that you want to spend time with her and that she isn't the one starting a hang-out sesh. Girls don't like being taken advantage of, even in a small way like this where she feels like she is the one who has to make all of the effort to see you.

Now, I know some of you are probably thinking, "Oh yeah but my situation is different...." "Oh yeah but what about this one time when she ...."

No.

Just stop.

If you even have to think about it, she most likely isn't into you. Just like guys, girls will make it extremely OBVIOUS that they like you.

On a sorta different note, girls will usually send a text message to their crush if they're thinking about them. This is usually after both have you made it blatently obvious that you like each other.

For example, if I was seeing someone, or semi-dating someone, or liked someone, and I texted them and said "Hey, I just heard read your FB post about unicorns and ponies and dinosaurs! I love those things too!," I'm pretty sure my guy would get the point.

But, if none of these scenarios make sense... or if you keep making up excuses as to why she's not calling you...

OH WAIT, before I conclude this entry, I HAVE to say one more thing.

If she hasn't called you in DAYS, and you guys are on your way into a relationship, THIS IS A HUGE RED FLAG!!!

Say you guys have been dating a little bit, ya know, few dates here, few dates there, few hang outs with your guy, girl friends... the whole bit. The next step is to ask her to be your girlfriend right?

Then... she stops calling or texting you.

You try and find out where she is, what she's doing.... maybe her friends know.... they don't answer you either....

You're thinking all kinds of crazy shit. Maybe she lost her phone? Maybe she lost her computer? Maybe she lost her work phone? Maybe all of her electronics were eaten by the electronic gods therefore prohibiting her from calling you?

No.

She's JUST not that into you.

She's trying to ignore you. She's trying to walk away from the situation without having to walk away from the situation. She doesn't want to hurt you, but in turn hurts you more by  not returning your phone calls or texts or facebooks or tweets or whatever.

Let's take it a step further.

You finally find her, facebook her, whatever her, and you guys talk. She says that she's sorry she didn't call you back. She's been busy, or confused or... whatever.

DON'T LISTEN TO HER BULLSHIT unless it's real bullshit.

"I've been busy at work," "Sorry, things are just crazy right now," "Sorry, I'm just confused about us," "I think maybe I'm not ready for a relationship right now (http://shesjustnotthatin2you.blogspot.com/2012/07/im-not-ready-for-relationship.html),"
"Sorry, my dog peed all over my phone," "Sorry, all my things broke..."

These aren't legit excuses. If she wanted to talk to you, or get a hold of you, she would've found a way.

She's busy at work? Okay well what about after work? She can't take the 2 seconds it takes to text you or call you back?

Things are crazy right now? What's crazy and if you mean that much to her (supposedly since you're dating right?) why can't she talk to you about them?

She's confused about your relationship? Well what better way to diffuse the confusion than talking about it?

Y'all already know how I feel about "I'm not ready for a relationship"

Ahh the art of reading a woman.
Have fun ;)