Let's define friend zone.
This is according to Wikipedia - source of all TRUE knowledge. ;)
Friend Zone-
In popular culture, the "friend zone" refers to a platonic relationship where one person wishes to enter into a romantic relationship while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an
undesirable situation by the lovelorn person. Once the friend zone is established, it is said to be difficult to move beyond that point in a relationship. It is generally males that talk about "being friendzoned" stating that they hate it, causing popular memes to be made about the friendzone such as "A moment of silence for our fallen brothers in the friendzone".
Trying to explain or define if you, personally, are in the friend zone is a bit tough. However, I have noted some sayings and some actions that women use when you are in the friend zone.
1. You are like an older brother to me - This is pretty much the worst thing a girl could ever say to you. Vice versa. This means that she has absolutely NO romantic feelings for you whatsoever. Getting out of this friendzone is nearly impossible.
2. She tells her parents that she thinks you're gay - Not that there is anything wrong with homosexuality, but if she thinks you're gay, you're way... way out in the friendzone.
3. She tells her friends about how awesome you are, but she doesn't date you - Self explanatory.
4. She talks about other guys to you and asks you for guy advice - If she liked you on a romantic level, she wouldn't talk about her latest crushes or infatuations. This goes with her ex-boyfriends too.
5. She doesn't offer physical touch - if your crush isn't touching your arm or hugging you... or trying to be close to you, she most likely has put you in the friend zone. Don't confuse this with things like - her putting her legs/feet on you when you're on the couch (this is a friend zone move) versus her holding your arm while you are walking somewhere, or hitting/slapping you when you make fun of her (this is NOT a friendzone move).
Now for the signs that she wants to get you OUT of the friend zone:
1. She is cuddly and lovey-dovey with you - she wants to be near you and holds your arm whenever you walk somewhere together.
When you are at the bar and you take her to get drinks, you take her hand - does she squeeze back?
When you put your arm around her, does she put hers around you?
When you hug her, does she do the whole full-frontal hug or the side hug? If it's frontal, you're in!
If you think you're stuck in the friend-zone, you most likely are. But there are so many ways to avoid it and/or get out of it.
In my experience, I've put myself in the friendzone too often with guys. In fact, I have a friend that I've kind of liked for awhile, and since I put myself in the friendzone, I'm pretty sure he doesn't look at me that way anymore. It might've worked in the beginning, maybe I was too nervous to make it obvious that I liked him, but now I'm in the friendzone, and I'm too nervous to say anything now.
If you like her, YOU need to create physical attraction for her. Every time you see her, do something different with your hair so she notices. Maybe buy a new shirt - maybe even something you wouldn't normally buy.
You need to be the one to make the initiative. Don't get all nervous. Life is all about taking chances, and if you don't try and go in for a kiss, a hug, a hand-holding session, it most likely won't happen.
Girls are afraid to be the first ones to make the move. We pretty much have it engraved within us that if a guy likes us, he will do all the beginning work.
So do it! Don't be a pussy. Get out there and take her on a DATE - and make sure she KNOWS that it's a date, not just a hang-out-sesh.
If you have a moment where a kiss feels right, just go for it. She'll let you know if it wasn't cool. Same with holding hands or hugging or cuddling. If she backs off, then you know, but if you do NOTHING, then you will never know.
Overall, being in the friendzone is pretty easy to feel out. If you don't feel like she likes you, she probably doesn't.... and that means...
She's just not that into you.
undesirable situation by the lovelorn person. Once the friend zone is established, it is said to be difficult to move beyond that point in a relationship. It is generally males that talk about "being friendzoned" stating that they hate it, causing popular memes to be made about the friendzone such as "A moment of silence for our fallen brothers in the friendzone".
Trying to explain or define if you, personally, are in the friend zone is a bit tough. However, I have noted some sayings and some actions that women use when you are in the friend zone.
1. You are like an older brother to me - This is pretty much the worst thing a girl could ever say to you. Vice versa. This means that she has absolutely NO romantic feelings for you whatsoever. Getting out of this friendzone is nearly impossible.
2. She tells her parents that she thinks you're gay - Not that there is anything wrong with homosexuality, but if she thinks you're gay, you're way... way out in the friendzone.
3. She tells her friends about how awesome you are, but she doesn't date you - Self explanatory.
4. She talks about other guys to you and asks you for guy advice - If she liked you on a romantic level, she wouldn't talk about her latest crushes or infatuations. This goes with her ex-boyfriends too.
5. She doesn't offer physical touch - if your crush isn't touching your arm or hugging you... or trying to be close to you, she most likely has put you in the friend zone. Don't confuse this with things like - her putting her legs/feet on you when you're on the couch (this is a friend zone move) versus her holding your arm while you are walking somewhere, or hitting/slapping you when you make fun of her (this is NOT a friendzone move).
Now for the signs that she wants to get you OUT of the friend zone:
1. She is cuddly and lovey-dovey with you - she wants to be near you and holds your arm whenever you walk somewhere together.
When you are at the bar and you take her to get drinks, you take her hand - does she squeeze back?
When you put your arm around her, does she put hers around you?
When you hug her, does she do the whole full-frontal hug or the side hug? If it's frontal, you're in!
If you think you're stuck in the friend-zone, you most likely are. But there are so many ways to avoid it and/or get out of it.
In my experience, I've put myself in the friendzone too often with guys. In fact, I have a friend that I've kind of liked for awhile, and since I put myself in the friendzone, I'm pretty sure he doesn't look at me that way anymore. It might've worked in the beginning, maybe I was too nervous to make it obvious that I liked him, but now I'm in the friendzone, and I'm too nervous to say anything now.
If you like her, YOU need to create physical attraction for her. Every time you see her, do something different with your hair so she notices. Maybe buy a new shirt - maybe even something you wouldn't normally buy.
You need to be the one to make the initiative. Don't get all nervous. Life is all about taking chances, and if you don't try and go in for a kiss, a hug, a hand-holding session, it most likely won't happen.
Girls are afraid to be the first ones to make the move. We pretty much have it engraved within us that if a guy likes us, he will do all the beginning work.
So do it! Don't be a pussy. Get out there and take her on a DATE - and make sure she KNOWS that it's a date, not just a hang-out-sesh.
If you have a moment where a kiss feels right, just go for it. She'll let you know if it wasn't cool. Same with holding hands or hugging or cuddling. If she backs off, then you know, but if you do NOTHING, then you will never know.
Overall, being in the friendzone is pretty easy to feel out. If you don't feel like she likes you, she probably doesn't.... and that means...
She's just not that into you.
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