Second Date Protocol

We meet again.

 

No, no literally... we meet again.

 

So, you're gunnin' for that second date huh?

 

How do you know if she's into you? How do you know if she, will, in fact, go on a second date with you?

 

Obviously, this is all based off of chemistry. Maybe you felt the chemistry and she didn't... or vice versa. Or maybe you both felt it. Either way, don't make asking for a second date more awkward than it already is.

 

At the end of the first date, throw something out there like, "I had a really great time. Maybe we can do it again sometime?" and see what her reaction is. If she smiles, giggles, whatever and says something along the lines of "yeah, I'd like that!" you're in the clear. Anything else besides a "yes, yeah, cool sounds good," you're effed.

 

So don't ask her out again at the end of the first date. Wait a couple days (perhaps like a Tuesday!) and call her to see if she has plans for the weekend.

 

Girls don't like clingy. We want to play hard-to-get... but don't wait too long, or you might miss your window of opportunity to ask her out again.

 

Trust me, you want a couple days to think about her and what she's all about before you ask her out again, and she definitely does too.

 

So even if you're on the first date, and one of the parties (either you or her) aren't feeling the other one, you can at least get to the end of the date without having that awkward, "ummmm... I don't think this would work...."

 

 

Let me know if you have any questions, but asking her out on a second date shouldn't be anything too out-of-this-world complicated.

 

And of course, if she says no....

 

She's just not that into you.

 

 

She's Not Into You - First Date Signs & Signals

Sorry it's been so long since I updated! I took a little hiatus!

So let's get down to business.

First date Etiquette and Signs of how you know that she is or isn't into you.

Let's set the stage:
You ask your lady crush out. Hey lets get dinner and we can see a movie after! Cool. Okay so it all depends on how you execute this. If you want to be a gentleman, pick her up for Pete's sake! Girls like a little old-fashioned manners! If you don't really care that much and just want to see where things go, meet her there.

Either way, open the door for her, whether she is getting in the car or you met her at the restaurant. This is just pure genius.

YOU pick the restaurant... I've said this before, girls like when the guys take the lead! You're the one taking HER out. Make an executive decision and pick. Now, I will say this... Don't pick any random restaurant. Kind of feel out what she's like... is she vegan? gluten-free? wheat-free? meataholic? asian-food fanatic? pho-reak? Make sure you don't pick a restaurant that she can't eat at. That alwayyys ruins the date!

Get the conversation going. Yeah, the "how was your day" stuff is nice, but if we're going on a first date with you, we wanna know the knitty gritty. Obviously, don't start off the conversation with, "so at what point do we have sex? You think like... first? second date?" That would be a sure way to get her to NOT date you again. Girls are NOT into talking sex as much as boys are (some are though... depends on who she is).

Start out with something a little less intense... you can even talk about the movie you are about to go see.

Example: "So I hear 'blah blah' is really good. I'm pretty stoked to see it. Have you heard anything about it yet?"

She goes, "emerged.... "   I've heard such good reviews about it! I'm glad you picked that one.

At this point, you've just opened up a range of topics to talk about. What actors are in the movie? What movie is your favorite with the actor in it? Oh, you love that movie? So do I!

See where I'm going with this?

Be open, but not too open.

Generic topics to avoid:
1. Religion
2. Politics
3. Dating history - I only wrote this one down because YOU shouldn't be the one to initiate dating history chat unless the time feels right. There is definitely a possibility that you two are hitting it off and she would be open to talking about it... but you HAVE to feel it out.
4. Sex - leave sex topics OUT of the first date convo!

Signs that she is into you:
These seem obvious now that I'm writing them out, but I guess I can never be too blunt.

1. She laughs at your stupid jokes
2. She looks you in the eye while talking with you
3. She really listens to what you have to say and follows up with questions that will generate more conversation
4. She has physical contact (i.e. touching your hand, arm, etc.)
5. She is smiling a lot!

Signs that she isn't into you:
1. She rolls her eyes at your stupid jokse
2. She can't seem to concentrate on what you're saying
3. She seems like she is going to jump out of her skin
4. She keeps looking at her phone or texting
5. She keeps getting up to go to the bathroom - this isn't because she has to pee a lot, it's because she is texting her friends/family in the bathroom stall trying to figure out how to get out of the date.

Don't fart or burp or be disgusting. Groom yourself and smell nice! Girls always love that.

But boys, and girls, if you ask that girl out on a second date and she says no, it's something you did on the first date.

And that means....

She's just not that into you...