So, let's talk about the quiet girls.
Sure, maybe some girls really are.. just..quiet!
But here is a classic scenario of the quiet, cold-shouldered girl.
You: "Hi there, my name is Ben, what is your name?"
Girl: "Kaitlin."
You: "What a pretty name. What do you do for work Kaitlin?"
Girl: "I'm an escort."
You: "What an interesting occupation! How did you get involved in escorting?"
Girl: "It kind of, fell into my lap."
You: (thinking this is a play-on joke and thinking that she might be reciprocating the flirtation) "Haha! That's good. So um.. do you come here often?"
Girl: "Yep."
You: "Oh.. that's... that's cool. Do you live around here?"
Girl: (gives you a look like you're creeping her out) "...yep..."
You: "So how d---"
Girl: "Look dude, I have a boyfriend/girlfriend."
Silence.
I don't understand sometimes how you boys think that this is still an open invitation to talk to us. We're trying to let you down nicely. We don't want to outright say, "hey, you're creeping me out, go away." Sometimes, if we seem like we are unavailable, we know that you will go away.
The solution? Unfortunately, if she gives you the cold shoulder, she's doing it for a reason. Maybe you're creepy... maybe she only likes goth guys. Maybe she is actually in love with her pet goldfish who just died a horrific drowning accident and she came to the bar to drink.
Don't get me wrong, she really might just be shy. But most of the time, I feel like you should be able to tell.
If you get this look:
She's creeped out.
If you get this look:
She's just shy.
I honestly can't believe i have to spell it out, but there you go.
